(If we’re unlucky, the number breaks even.) That’s a realm seldom trekked due to intense precautious safety measures—being highly flammable, it may be best to maintain some distance. Very much appreciate what is now available online. For example: "Hey, I’ve noticed that your communication has decreased a lot, and you take a long time to respond. And my Great Grandma used to say that I was all-or-nothing! Forness suggests saying something like, "I feel like you’re pulling away—do you need some space or more time?" Hmmmm....now I am wondering if I should have even disagreed?? The abstract thinking, though....hard to find that in females. When you don't, it takes time to figure out how to live with that. Our unique position in Myers and Briggs' typology gives us a flavor of candor that gets us into trouble nine times out of 10—without us ever knowing why. Nuff said. Although, strangely now that I think about it...I do use the microwave a lot. As an INTP-identifying female, if I were to highlight all the relevant, meaningful parts of this article, 90% would be highlighted. I force excitement when I receive gifts. Now that I think about it, Fi is an INTP’s 8th slot function, meaning that my Fi probably brutalizes my INTP … I am always looking for ways to improve the system (public school) so that I can do my job better, but do not have the power to change it. The pair lingered over dinner and drinks for hours, took a walk in the park, and even kissed on a swing set. And it's long. There’s the infamous INFJ door slam, and then there’s the INTP slow fade. INTP: You search for the lesson. Anyone have any thoughts on this? Capricorn Poll for Men and Women. The typical 9-5 is not ideal for us night owls as our inspiration and energy typically arrive in bursts. And while a slow fade can reveal you’re dealing with a jerk—or at least calls into question their self-awareness, morality, integrity, and compassion, in Bruneau’s opinion—it may mean nothing more than you’re dating in the digital age, when the next catch is one swipe away. I recall being depressed and isolated, and a mess as a teenager and i had to work hard and struggle to grow past all my insecurities alone and today, i can honestly say that i have come so far from who i used to be and though, i'm 100% introvert, i am confident and refuse to be put down by what people say(even when my parents and siblings make hurtful comments). It’s minimalism met with a messy twist. This can translate to intense confusion with hopeful partners, which can quickly evolve into quiet tolerance or anger. This is so true. I like the isolation because it brings me peace. But how often do you feel which in a typical week or month? Wow. Thank you for laying all of this out. I find isolation such a sweet peace. That microwavable dinner and chicken nuggets bit had Gordon Ramsey breathing down on my neck. All comments are moderated. Women's Health may earn commission from the links on this page, but we only feature products we believe in. She also writes for www.thecareerproject.org. Borderline means I have very strong mood swings and can appear to be a different person at different times, so I took the test at two different extremes. I first came across MBTI about 30 years ago in a book called Do What You Are by Barron & Barron-Tiegger. If I had any doubts about my type, I have fewer now! How Does Your Personality Type Impact Your Income? Spammers will be fried and served on toast. Taking the role at the top is natural for an INTJ, as they are effective leaders and are capable of inspiring others. Women's Health participates in various affiliate marketing programs, which means we may get paid commissions on editorially chosen products purchased through our links to retailer sites. lol. Plus, it’s important to maintain your own identity and interests while dating, Forness says. However infuriating, enduring a slow fade is a reality for many singles these days, says Megan Bruneau, RCC, a therapist in New York City who specializes in relationships and other issues facing her millennial clientele. OMG I’m not alone. Being hyper-aware of your strengths and weaknesses can pave a unique and unprecedented path. I think that may mean you’re no longer interested in seeing where things go, and I’m looking for a relationship that’s built on honesty, communication, and respect. "When you’re dating someone, you shouldn’t have to wonder when you’re going to see them or when they’re going to text," says Andi Forness, an online dating coach in Austin. All pages are intact, and the cover is intact. I still do my job very well, and no year is ever the same due to my attempts to improve, but I find myself in constant turmoil. When this is intertwined with other areas that fascinate us, we get excited. Not true. I just realised I am on a tangent rambling. If we hurt, and the pain stabs right to the final dark, inferior function (Extroverted Feeling - Fe), then it’ll throw us off balance, and we’ll implode. Other than that, the list is spot on. They've already figured it out and can't figure out why you're in such a slow, boring mode. :) I'm currently happily married, so I am not, and have been married for about 2 decades now to someone who tests often as an INTJ, although I think under stress he can become an ISTJ/ISTP. Why trust us? Female intps usually end up with male intps, but there is a more compatible type for male intps (don't remember which now). Hilarious, I just found out that I'm actually an INTP female (my biologic gender is male). Slow fading can be way easier, even if some daters think it’s cowardly. Thankfully, we love reading *winks*. Plus, how to handle it like a pro. 17 Ways To Get Over Your Crush—Guaranteed, Gigi and Zayn’s Body Language, Decoded By A Pro. Except, personally, I like bright and interesting clothes. ... To avoid similar torture, some guys (and girls) pull what is known as the “slow fade” and try to end a relationship gradually by doing (or not doing) a few simple things. The INTP will tend to rationalize the slow worker as being unprincipled, having hidden motives, perhaps even intentionally sabotaging the INTP's work flow. Please be courteous. Stop chasing him or her and wait to be chased, experts say. I can fake social. It’s easy to doubt your type when the first few recommended careers for INTPs fall along the lines of computer programmer, microbiologist, and web developer. Pages can include considerable notes-in pen or highlighter-but the notes cannot obscure the text. I don’t know why mood would affect N-S orientation: the world of what could be vs. the world of what is. hahahaha, I am going to be the dissenter. I'm also a female INTP, and I don't believe I've ever met another INTP. This is a very difficult feat. Deeply creative and highly observant of details others don't notice. Knew that I was different even starting from my family of origin. The gradual distancing is to protect ourselves from any additional damage right down to our most vulnerable parts: in the feels.